It would be none of our business if Bethenny Frankel, star of Bethenny Ever After, did not make it our business by constantly talking about this terrible childhood she had. Bethenny apparently writes about it again in her latest book: A Place of Yes, igniting another rebuttal from her mother, Bernadette Parisella Birk
Many of the reality TV “celebs” do not include information about their parents at all. Why make the feud so public? If Bethenny didn’t constantly refer to the “raised by wolves” childhood, we would never know.
Not an expert in any way, but I do know this: Until Bethenny and her mother actually talk face-to-face, and try to come to some resolution, Bethenny will not know peace of mind.
Here’s an excerpt of an interview Ms. Birk gave to Hollywoodlife.com:
“She was NOT in any nightclubs at 13, unless she was crawling out her bedroom window at night,” Bernadette tells us. “But yes, we took her to Vegas with us because we were not going to leave her with a babysitter.”
“We took her all over the world, she wasn’t out of my sight ever,” Bernadette adds.
Bethenny’s take? “My childhood was not terrible,” she admits during our interview. “I had a lot of happiness — or at least a lot of fun times. I did a lot of interesting things’ — but not necessarily at an age that would have been appropriate, she feels.
Bethenny still writes in her book, “I never wanted to hurt her — I wish when this book comes out, she wouldn’t have to see it or know about it.”
But her mom did find out. “If she didn’t want me to read the parts about me in the book then why would she publish it?” Bernadette wonders.
“My comment is the same as it was — I consider her to be demented and beyond help,” Bernadette says. “Reconciliation is not up to her at all. She would never want to repair anything because then all of her lies would come out.
Truth or lies, they need to talk.
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Good upbringing, bad upbringing, mixed upbringing. We may be traumatized by friends (bullying) or relatives or wars or loss of loved one’s. However, in a healthy minds one comes out with great wisdom and compassion. You can choose to become a victim or choose to become a better person as a result of suffering. Betheny is choosing a victim role. It is not for her and her child. There is this anger at the corner of Bethenny mouth that can not hide. She is more comfortable saying mean things about people around her then trying to be soft and kind.
Jason parents are soft and kind. So, Bethenny finds it as an opportunity to push them around. Jason has to be very strong in making sure Bryn is around his parents. Bethenny is already causing a great drama to her kid by keeping Jason parents on a leash. Money is not a measure of complete package. Fame is not going to cure Bethenny.
having a big heart and allow herself to forgive, to care and accept others into her life is priceless.
Bethenny acts like a spoiled brat. Pretty pathetic for a 40-year-old, even if she did have a less-than-ideal childhood.
As the adult child of a toxic parent, I can see how an emotionally torturing childhood manifests itself through Bethenny’s personality. The guilt of having too much lavish attention, the uncomfortability in unusually pleasant situations, the strong feeling of emotion in different situations, pleasing others (in Bethenny’s case, Jason and her immediate loved ones) and being angry at herself when they aren’t, and pushing away others who have good intent (in her case, her in-laws) are all signs that she must have had some sort of emotional trauma when she was growing up. I mean, she’s actively in therapy, so she must be dealing with residual anger, even though it’s something I wouldn’t want an entire television-viewing audience to experience, if I were her. No one may really know the core of what happened between Bethenny and her parents, particularly between her and her mom. But if I were Bethenny, I wouldn’t reveal personal details about my family situation to the public. It only adds more and more resentment and anger to that which already exists, and she should just enjoy her success with her new immediate family on her own, and on her own terms.
This is good advice “A”. Bethenny is a beautiful person inside and out. She has no more or no less issues like the rest of us. I hope she continues to be successful and enjoy her new life with her husband and baby. Hopefully she will also come to terms with her past life and be able to put closure to it and find inner peace and wisdom. If she can take from her experiences that she is now a stronger, wiser person, then none of it was in vain. It’s a part of life. We all have our situations.
I have to wonder about all of this too. I think Bethenny is very calculating and uses her upbringing as an excuse to be snarky. Now, I do enjoy watching her but I’m not sure how much I like her. I also have to wonder where are any of her friends growing up, or her parents friends? If I went on TV or wrote a book about my mom, somewhere, someone would speak up.
Believe it or not, because I have to dig to find her mother’s responses makes me wonder how much bethenny is telling the truth. Her mom doesn’t seem like an opportunist, awful person.
Bethenny was obviously raised with money to end up in Manhattan, someone paid for that. I think Bethenny was a spoiled child, enjoyed every minute of it and then blames her problems on her parents. I actually have a friend like that and it’s irritating.
You’re right, it is irritating, and it surprises me how many fans Bethenny has who admire her “honesty.”
The constant beating that Bethenny exhibits towards her mother is puzzling. It is not enough to say that she may have had a dysfunctional or unconventional upbringing, but she has to say it over and over again until doubts begin to arise as to just how bad it really was. Obviously there is resentment there but to what degree? One is led to believe that she went without food, clothing, or shelter and someone must pay.
Too bad she just can’t leave it behind and concentrate on Bryn without having to include her mother in every sentence. Just plain mean spirited.
The constant beating that Bethenny exhibits towards her mother is puzzling. It is not enough to say that she may have had a dysfunctional or unconventional upbringing, but she has to say it over and over again until doubts begin to arise as to just how bad it really was. Obviously there is resentment there but to what degree? One is led to believe that she went without food, clothing, or shelter and someone must pay.
Too bad she just can’t leave it behind and concentrate on Bryn without having to include her mother in every sentence. Just plain mean spirited.
Based on what’s shown on TV, Bryn is lucky to have Jason as a father. Can you imagine what it would be like to be raised and under the influence of mean-spirited Bethenny?
Where is the truth regarding this relationship? Where it usually is–somewhere in the middle. Was Bethenny’s mother perfect? Probably not. Was Bethenny a perfect daughter? Probably not. Bethenny has managed to make big bucks in part by exposing (and exploiting) her “raised by wolves” childhood, ruining her mother’s reputation in the process. I don’t blame the mother for being annoyed at her. I don’t care if it’s “real”, the excuse Bethenny and those that condone her behavior like to always fall back on. I really doubt that Bethenny thought that writing about what a terrible mother she had would bring them closer together or help to heal things. She knew it would make her seem more sympathetic and vulnerable to the viewing public, so she opened her mouth. Bethenny is more than just “real”, she is also very calculating and I don’t think she does anything without thinking what and where it’s going to get her first.
I think you hit the nail on the head.